What Are We Here For?

Codependency is a popular term, but it’s outdated.  It’s oftentimes misunderstood.  And, some people go throughout life thinking they have this “condition” that will always be a thorn in their side.

I’m a firm believer that we are not “codependent”.  I believe codependency is a style of relating that many people picked up in childhood – an unhealthy style of relating.

This website aims to teach about “co”-dependency, or what I like to call “outer-dependency”.

Essentially, I mean relying on things “out there” to give us feelings of worth. Of value. Of feeling loved. But it’s not “out there”, dear ones. It’s “in here”.  It’s within, and if you’re struggling with characteristics of codependency, then it’s time to embark on a fresh journey within. 

It’s time to turn to the sacred you – and a holy God- where both of you work toward healing emotionally so you can really get on with your life being fully present, abiding in peace and joy.

What Are We Here For?

Good question, huh?  I still ask myself this question at times. Am I here to work my butt off and make a lot of money? You’d think that’s the goal when you watch people work themselves to an early grave.

Am I here to suffer?  Well, pain is going to come our way on this journey, but we’re not here to just suffer. In fact, Jesus said we will experience trials and tribulation, but be of good cheer, for Jesus came to show us a way to transcend emotional suffering.

And, according to Buddhist philosophy, our purpose in life is to help end suffering.  As humans, we experience suffering at times, largely because we try so hard to hold onto things, people, etc. and let’s face it: those things don’t last and can let us down.

The Buddha taught that attachments (unhealthy attachments, as in codependency) cause suffering, and he dedicated his life teaching people how to free themselves from such attachments, and serve humanity in love and compassion.

So, What Are We Here For?

Well, there are hundreds of answers to that question. Your task is to discover the answer for yourself. Your task is to walk your unique, sacred path taking the time to grow closer to your Creator.

God’s got YOUR answers, so commit to the practice of daily prayer, meditation, sitting in silence, and so on.  This is where the healing begins, for codependency, “outer-dependence”, and suffering in general.

I firmly believe that God’s Presence and Power is greater than we can even fathom. It is this Power that I believe in and look toward to support my life. To support our emotional healing and well-being.

We didn’t come here to solely struggle. We came to learn valuable life lessons and help each other out along the way. 

This website and my work is my contribution to humanity, sharing with others key lessons that I’ve learned along my journey. Take time to dig in and if you need support, simply reach out. 

Whoever goes hunting for what is right and kind
    finds life itself—glorious life! Proverbs 21:21