Want A Better Relationship? Learn Your Attachment Style
We want secure, fulfilling relationships, right? But many certainly don’t turn out the way we want, and we end up heartbroken, ashamed, frustrated, angry, and lonely. On a brighter note, what if we can come to understand ourselves and our partner better by looking at...
How To Enjoy A Deeper Emotional Connection With Your Partner
Feeling connected emotionally with your partner or spouse is a big deal for many people. While some may cringe at the thought, others really crave that deep and meaningful emotional connection. For your relationship to really flourish, connecting at that deeper, more...
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style: What Is It? Do You Have It?
If you want to understand yourself and your relationships better, learning about attachment styles should be on your “to do” list. The reason is that the way you “attached” to your primary caregivers as a baby/child have a direct influence on your adult relationships....
Not Feeling Seen Or Heard? Here’s What You Can Do
Relationships are important. From the moment we're born, forming secure connections with others is of primary importance based on survival, but also based on preference. From infants to children to adults, we all desire to feel seen and heard. By seen and heard, I...
Anxious – Preoccupied Attachment Style: What Is It & Do You Have It?
An estimated 20 percent of the population freaks out at the thought or reality of being alone. They overly rely on people seeking to soothe underlying anxiety that started zapping their nervous system as a child. That over-reliance often causes them to come off as...
Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?
Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others? We've explored the nature of codependency and how it can slowly ruin a relationship. You get into a relationship and things seem so amazing when the “love high” is going on. However, at some point the relationship takes...
Moving Beyond Codependency: 8 Key Recovery Principles
Codependency Recovery: 8 Key Concepts In working with people who struggle with codependency characteristics, and navigating my emotional healing journey, I have compiled 8 Key Concepts working toward healing from codependency characteristics that form my understanding...
How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs
How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs Not knowing if your spouse is using drugs or not can cause so much anxiety. Maybe they’ve got a history of drug use or maybe you’re seeing some sketchy behaviors. Have you caught him in a lie? Is he slurring his...
Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All
Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All You’re my cave to hide in, my cliff to climb.Be my safe leader, be my true mountain guide.Free me from hidden traps; I want to hide in you.I’ve put my life in your hands. You won’t drop me, you’ll never let...
Madly In Love Or Just Mad?
Madly In Love or Just Mad? “We used to be madly in love, but now we’re just mad all the time. Crazy, right?” Falling in love is beautiful, isn't it? I can say for myself the process of falling in love makes me feel like I can do anything! There are reasons why...
Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise
Thought Awareness and Reframing Part of emotional healing requires us to revisit past memories, perhaps even feeling some of the negative feelings associated with such. Today, let me show you a quick technique that has helped me get in the habit of becoming more of an...
Codependency Recovery Is Important
Codependency Recovery is Important I commend you on your patience and persistence to continue to explore your issues and get familiar with the main triggers of your codependent tendencies. And, progressing in your codependency recovery, begin to implement a set of...
Learn To Set & Keep Boundaries: Part 2
What You Want and Need Matters, So Set Those Boundaries! The reason why some people end up struggling with relating in a codependent way is that they don’t understand the importance or don’t know how to set and keep boundaries. Sadly, they usually come to realize this...
Setting And Keeping Boundaries: Part 1
Setting and Keeping Boundaries “My husband has been using pills for almost a decade. We have two kids together and I’m tired of being the one in charge of everything. I’d been putting up with it alright until last month when I got a call from the cops in the middle...
Please Don’t Leave Me! The Fear Of Abandonment
The Fear of Abandonment Abandonment - being left alone. The fear of abandonment is a very real fear that affects many people. Maybe you’ve knowingly experienced this or maybe it’s haunted you under the surface for a long time. Chances are someone has abandoned...
Codependency: A Sacred View
Codependency: A Sacred View “Codependency? WTH? I feel so alone. No one understands and I question whether anyone really cares. I know I don’t deserve this, but here I am struggling in this relationship. Is there a reason for this? Is there some big lesson I’m...
Draw Up A Blueprint
Draw Up Your Blueprint Without a blueprint, contractors would be up a creek, huh? Having to build a home without specifications could really cause some headaches and an unsafe dwelling In the same way, we need a blueprint when it comes to overcoming codependent...
Codependent Meaning – Is Codependency Ruling My Relationships?
Codependent Meaning: What is It? Is Codependency Ruling My Relationships? Codependent meaning - The pattern of seeking external things, including people, for a feeling of self-worth. Before we can implement various strategies to eliminate the dysfunctional...
Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation
Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation “I can’t believe who I’ve become. I’m sinking lower and lower, snooping through his phone reading his texts, checking the history on his computer. I want to trust him, but he’s lied so many times – or at least I...
Step 1- Acceptance
STEP 1 - ACCEPTANCE If you’re not willing to open up and look at the truth – the reality that you’ve been living in. The good, the bad, and the ugly – then you’re not going to get very far in recovering from codependency. You might talk a good talk and know the...
Codependency Recovery – Start Here
I’m Coda What? “Are you kidding me? I’m not codependent and I don’t need a support group!”That was me ten years ago, when I was an emotional basket case and clueless about just how deep I was in a codependent mud puddle.A codependency recovery support group? Really? I...
4 Codependency Recovery Stages
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Set Boundaries With Loved Ones
It’s Alright to Set Boundaries With Loved Ones I'm no stranger to online recovery forums. I find many people write in wondering how to set boundaries with their loved ones. Whether their loved one is an addict, alcoholic, selfish, unavailable emotionally, etc.,...
Can A Codependent Be A Narcissist?
Can You Be Codependent and a Narcissist? Some people have asked me if it’s possible that they could be codependent and a narcissist. Now, from a psychological standpoint, the answer is no, mainly because each disorder is at the opposite end of the spectrum. What can...
5 Comments That Will Help You Diffuse A Narcissist
5 Comments To Diffuse A Narcissist If you’re dealing with a narcissist, chances are you’re left feeling defeated more times than you’d like. You’re walking on eggshells, feeling inadequate, and likely exhausted from making darn sure their ego is having a good trip....
5 Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate
5 Toxic Behaviors We Should Never Tolerate “You’re such a frickin’ idiot! Is their something wrong with your brain?” I know, right? How rude! This type of verbal bashing, along with plenty of other toxic behaviors, shouldn’t be tolerated in any relationship....
Don’t Text Your Feelings!
Don’t Text Your Feelings: Ask For What You Need I express myself better in writing, especially when it comes to communicating how I feel. This might be alright for a blog or casual conversation, but when it comes to trying to communicate serious feelings to my...
The Codependency Dance Is No Fun
The Codependency Dance If you’re like me, you sometimes dance in your home all by yourself when one of your favorite dance songs comes on. Ah, come on, you know you do, and rightly so: Dancing is fun. Well, except the Codependency Dance. That kind of dance stinks....
Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent?
Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent? Codependency symptoms differ from one person to another. In fact, every problem that we might encounter, be it depression, anxiety, phobia or codependency, has its particularities.Two people struggling with codependency...
You Are Not Codependency
You Are Not Codependency I am not codependent, and neither are you. It’s time we drop the label, because the reality is that if you keep identifying with codependency so closely, you’re likely to keep creating the same reality. The codependency movement has...
I Know I’m Codependent. Now What?
I Know I'm Codependent. Now What There's a lot of information about codependency out there. You could read two articles and determined that yes, you're certainly struggling with codependent characteristics. In fact, you could read book after book and article...
Why Do I Feel So Insecure in Relationship?
Why Am I So Insecure In My Relationships? Today’s topic is Attachment Theory and Codependency. If you’re struggling with codependency characteristics, it will serve you well to learn about the various attachment styles there are and how your attachment bond that you...
Escaping Codependency In The Sacred
Escaping Codependency In The Sacred For me codependency was a god-send. Don’t get me wrong. It was very challenging to go through the toxic relationship that first pointed out to me that I certainly struggled with codependent characteristics. At the same time, had I...
No More Crumbs
I Will Not Settle For Crumbs Anymore! Hey recovering codependents! Here’s a new mantra for ya! Say it with me: “I will not settle for crumbs anymore!” Feels good, huh? Now, I’m talking relationships here, friends. I mean we will not settle for others tossing us a...
Are You Dating A Narcissist?
Are You Dating a Narcissist? The world of dating can be pretty tricky, as we've all heard horror stories of our friend who got into a relationship with a cray cray or narcissist. If you're in the dating game, or you're in a relationship and you're wondering how you...
When Your Communication Skills Suck
When Your Relationship Communication Skills Suck I think most of us can agree that relationships are not always smooth sailing. Some are great, some are mediocre, and some are just plain terrible. There are many reasons and many factors that play a role, but a...
Toxic Relationships: For Love’s Sake, Cut Ties
Cutting Ties in a Toxic Relationship You’re sucking the life right out of me! Says anyone who has experienced toxic relationships before. Today’s topic is toxic people. Toxic in the way that they just don’t have healthy relationship skills. Whether they’re super...
Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent
Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent Most of us want a healthy relationship with another person, but it’s not so easy for everyone to experience such. Those that find yourselves in a codependent or toxic relationship have got to get some...
Help! My Relationship is Dying!
If you’re anything like me, you totally enjoy sharing life with that special someone who makes your knees wobble and butterflies dance in your tummy. Falling in love, having adventures, partnering, and growing together is super duper amazing. I have learned though,...
The History of Codependency
The History of Codependency The meaning of codependency today is far from the original meaning when it was first coined back in the 80’s. See, back in 1936, the 12 Step group Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) was started by Bill W. and Dr. Bob. This was a godsend to those...
Do You Love Someone With Narcissistic Tendencies?
Do You Love Someone Who Has Narcissistic Tendencies? If you’re wondering if your partner has narcissistic tendencies, you may be onto something. The fact that you’re reading this article indicates that something is amiss in your relationship, and narcissism could very...
I Am Not My Codependency {Poetry}
I Am Not Codependency {Poetry} I struggle with codependency so they say This means that I’m feeling sad inside just about every day See, I want to please everyone around me so badly That’s about the only thing that makes me feel happy, sadly When they say “Oh...