Fear of Abandonment: Tips To Overcome

Fear of Abandonment: Tips To Overcome

Overcome The Fear of Abandonment     The fear of abandonment is a psychological phenomenon that affects many people around the world. This fear can originate from a variety of sources, including childhood experiences, past traumas, or unresolved relationship...

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40 Being Single Quotes That Will Empower You

40 Being Single Quotes That Will Empower You

40 Being Single Quotes That Will Empower You: Embrace Your Independence     I used to think being single was horrible. I felt shame around it and like if people knew I was single, they'd think I was a failure. Everywhere I looked, it seemed like society was...

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Want A Better Relationship? Learn Your Attachment Style

Want A Better Relationship? Learn Your Attachment Style

We want secure, fulfilling relationships, right? But many certainly don’t turn out the way we want, and we end up heartbroken, ashamed, frustrated, angry, and lonely. On a brighter note, what if we can come to understand ourselves and our partner better by looking at...

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Not Feeling Seen Or Heard? Here’s What You Can Do

Not Feeling Seen Or Heard? Here’s What You Can Do

Relationships are important. From the moment we're born, forming secure connections with others is of primary importance based on survival, but also based on preference. From infants to children to adults, we all desire to feel seen and heard. By seen and heard, I...

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Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?

Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?

Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?     Have you ever wondered why we act the way we do in relationships? Why our partners do? How some relationships last the long haul and others split after weeks or months? Just how do people end up practicing...

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Moving Beyond Codependency: 8 Key Recovery Principles

Moving Beyond Codependency: 8 Key Recovery Principles

In working with people who struggle with codependency characteristics (anxious attachment style), and navigating my emotional healing journey, I have compiled 8 Key Concepts working toward healing from such characteristics that form my understanding of a foundation...

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Those In Pain Need More Love; Not Less

Those In Pain Need More Love; Not Less

Those In Pain Need More Love, Not Less I think it was Matt Kahn who said that. “Those in pain need more love; not less.” It hit me like a ton of bricks at the time.  I thought, “What about those that are being horrible? The haters? Those that harm others?” I heard,...

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How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs

How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs Not knowing if your spouse is using drugs or not can cause so much anxiety.  Maybe they’ve got a history of drug use or maybe you’re seeing some sketchy behaviors.  Have you caught him in a lie? Is he slurring his...

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Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All

Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All You’re my cave to hide in,    my cliff to climb.Be my safe leader,    be my true mountain guide.Free me from hidden traps;    I want to hide in you.I’ve put my life in your hands.    You won’t drop me,    you’ll never let...

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What Is Codependency?

What Is Codependency?

What Is Codependency?   Many people ask, 'what is codependency?' Simply put, it's an unhealthy attachment to another person. This term originated from the recovery movement, where counselors observed certain unhealthy patterns in family members of those...

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Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise

Thought Awareness and Reframing Part of emotional healing requires us to revisit past memories, perhaps even feeling some of the negative feelings associated with such. Today, let me show you a quick technique that has helped me get in the habit of becoming more of an...

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Codependency Recovery Is Important

Codependency Recovery Is Important

 Codependency Recovery is Important I commend you on your patience and persistence to continue to explore your issues and get familiar with the main triggers of your codependent tendencies. And, progressing in your codependency recovery, begin to implement a set of...

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Learn To Set & Keep Boundaries: Part 2

What You Want and Need Matters, So Set Those Boundaries! The reason why some people end up struggling with relating in a codependent way is that they don’t understand the importance or don’t know how to set and keep boundaries. Sadly, they usually come to realize this...

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Setting And Keeping Boundaries: Part 1

Setting And Keeping Boundaries: Part 1

Setting and Keeping Boundaries “My husband has been using pills for almost a decade. We have two kids together and I’m tired of being the one in charge of everything.  I’d been putting up with it alright until last month when I got a call from the cops in the middle...

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Codependency: A Sacred View

Codependency: A Sacred View

Codependency: A Sacred View “Codependency? WTH? I feel so alone. No one understands and I question whether anyone really cares. I know I don’t deserve this, but here I am struggling in this relationship. Is there a reason for this? Is there some big lesson I’m...

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Draw Up A Blueprint

Draw Up A Blueprint

Draw Up Your Blueprint Without a blueprint, contractors would be up a creek, huh?  Having to build a home without specifications could really cause some headaches and an unsafe dwelling In the same way, we need a blueprint when it comes to overcoming codependent...

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Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation

Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation

Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation “I can’t believe who I’ve become.  I’m sinking lower and lower, snooping through his phone reading his texts, checking the history on his computer.  I want to trust him, but he’s lied so many times – or at least I...

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Step 1- Acceptance

Step 1- Acceptance

STEP 1 - ACCEPTANCE   If you’re not willing to open up and look at the truth – the reality that you’ve been living in. The good, the bad, and the ugly – then you’re not going to get very far in recovering from codependency. You might talk a good talk and know the...

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Codependency Recovery – Start Here

I’m Coda What? “Are you kidding me? I’m not codependent and I don’t need a support group!”That was me ten years ago, when I was an emotional basket case and clueless about just how deep I was in a codependent mud puddle.A codependency recovery support group? Really? I...

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Can A Codependent Be A Narcissist?

Can A Codependent Be A Narcissist?

Can You Be Codependent and a Narcissist? Some people have asked me if it’s possible that they could be codependent and a narcissist.  Now, from a psychological standpoint, the answer is no, mainly because each disorder is at the opposite end of the spectrum.  What can...

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5 Comments That Will Help You Diffuse A Narcissist

5 Comments That Will Help You Diffuse A Narcissist

5 Comments To Diffuse A Narcissist If you’re dealing with a narcissist, chances are you’re left feeling defeated more times than you’d like. You’re walking on eggshells, feeling inadequate, and likely exhausted from making darn sure their ego is having a good trip....

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5 Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate

5 Toxic Behaviors We Should Never Tolerate   “You’re such a frickin’ idiot! Is their something wrong with your brain?” I know, right? How rude! This type of verbal bashing, along with plenty of other toxic behaviors, shouldn’t be tolerated in any relationship....

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Don’t Text Your Feelings!

Don’t Text Your Feelings: Ask For What You Need   I express myself better in writing, especially when it comes to communicating how I feel. This might be alright for a blog or casual conversation, but when it comes to trying to communicate serious feelings to my...

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The Codependency Dance Is No Fun

The Codependency Dance Is No Fun

The Codependency Dance If you’re like me, you sometimes dance in your home all by yourself when one of your favorite dance songs comes on.  Ah, come on, you know you do, and rightly so: Dancing is fun. Well, except the Codependency Dance. That kind of dance stinks....

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Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent?

Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent?

Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent? Codependency symptoms differ from one person to another. In fact, every problem that we might encounter, be it depression, anxiety, phobia or codependency, has its particularities.Two people struggling with codependency...

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You Are Not Codependency

You Are Not Codependency

You Are Not Codependency   I am not codependent, and neither are you. It’s time we drop the label, because the reality is that if you keep identifying with codependency so closely, you’re likely to keep creating the same reality. The codependency movement has...

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I Know I’m Codependent. Now What?

I Know I’m Codependent. Now What?

I Know I'm Codependent. Now What   There's a lot of information about codependency out there. You could read two articles and determined that yes, you're certainly struggling with codependent characteristics. In fact, you could read book after book and article...

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Why Do I Feel So Insecure in Relationship?

Why Do I Feel So Insecure in Relationship?

Why Am I So Insecure In My Relationships? Today’s topic is Attachment Theory and Codependency. If you’re struggling with codependency characteristics, it will serve you well to learn about the various attachment styles there are and how your attachment bond that you...

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No More Crumbs

No More Crumbs

I Will Not Settle For Crumbs Anymore! Hey recovering codependents! Here’s a new mantra for ya!  Say it with me: “I will not settle for crumbs anymore!” Feels good, huh? Now, I’m talking relationships here, friends.  I mean we will not settle for others tossing us a...

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Toxic Relationships: For Love’s Sake, Cut Ties

Cutting Ties in a Toxic Relationship You’re sucking the life right out of me! Says anyone who has experienced toxic relationships before. Today’s topic is toxic people. Toxic in the way that they just don’t have healthy relationship skills. Whether they’re super...

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Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent

Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent

Shoot for an Interdependent Relationship- Not Codependent   Most of us want a healthy relationship with another person, but it’s not so easy for everyone to experience such. Those that find yourselves in a codependent or toxic relationship have got to get some...

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Help! My Relationship is Dying!

Help! My Relationship is Dying!

If you’re anything like me, you totally enjoy sharing life with that special someone who makes your knees wobble and butterflies dance in your tummy. Falling in love, having adventures, partnering, and growing together is super duper amazing. I have learned though,...

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The History of Codependency

The History of Codependency The meaning of codependency today is far from the original meaning when it was first coined back in the 80’s. See, back in 1936, the 12 Step group Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) was started by Bill W. and Dr. Bob. This was a godsend to those...

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I Am Not My Codependency {Poetry}

I Am Not My Codependency {Poetry}

I Am Not Codependency {Poetry}   I struggle with codependency so they say This means that I’m feeling sad inside just about every day See, I want to please everyone around me so badly That’s about the only thing that makes me feel happy, sadly When they say “Oh...

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