I’m Sad. Ok, Ok, I’m Depressed. What Can I Do?

I’m Sad. Ok, Ok, I’m Depressed. What Can I Do?

I’m Sad. Ok, Ok I’m Depressed. What Can I Do?   Come mighty breakdown, break me wide open. Carve your name in the caverns of my hollow heart. Rip off the blinders & cut the shadow’s cord. I can’t take one more day of this pitch black. This sandpaper love has...

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Those In Pain Need More Love; Not Less

Those In Pain Need More Love; Not Less

Those In Pain Need More Love, Not Less I think it was Matt Kahn who said that. “Those in pain need more love; not less.” It hit me like a ton of bricks at the time.  I thought, “What about those that are being horrible? The haters? Those that harm others?” I heard,...

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Parenting Adult Children: Think Progress, Not Perfection

Parenting Adult Children: Think Progress, Not Perfection

“Mom, can I share something with you?”This, coming from my 25-year-old daughter who seems quite upset about something.“Of course, darling. What is it?”Meanwhile, my heart starts to beat a bit faster. I tense up. My mind starts wondering if she’s pregnant or lost her...

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Darling, You’re Not Broken

Darling, You’re Not Broken

Darling, You're Not Broken But my heart is broken. How the heck do you expect me to get up and smile every day?We hear this a lot. We see it a lot. Just scroll through Facebook or check Instagram quotes and you’ll see heartache splattered all over the place.Maybe your...

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We Are Enough: Do You Believe That?

We Are Enough: Do You Believe That?

  What Are We Here For? Codependency is a popular term, but it's outdated.  It's oftentimes misunderstood.  And, some people go throughout life thinking they have this "condition" that will always be a thorn in their side. I'm a firm believer that we are not...

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Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise

Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise

Thought Awareness and Reframing Part of emotional healing requires us to revisit past memories, perhaps even feeling some of the negative feelings associated with such. Today, let me show you a quick technique that has helped me get in the habit of becoming more of an...

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Codependency Recovery Is Important

Codependency Recovery Is Important

 Codependency Recovery is Important I commend you on your patience and persistence to continue to explore your issues and get familiar with the main triggers of your codependent tendencies. And, progressing in your codependency recovery, begin to implement a set of...

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Inner Child Healing Exercise

Inner Child Healing Exercise

Childhood Photograph Dialogue Exercise Yes, that’s me at five years old. That little girl is who went through some scary things and didn’t understand why. That’s the little girl who figured she better be a “good girl”, because maybe if she was “good”, Mom and Dad...

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Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self

Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self

 Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self None of our childhoods were perfect. Sure, many of us had good childhoods with loving parents.  But perfection in the way that all of our wants and needs were met? Nah. Didn’t happen. So, we grow up with some wounds. Some...

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Breathe. You Are Not Alone

Breathe. You Are Not Alone

Breathe: You’re Not Alone “I just found out my partner relapsed. We’ve been together four years and sure, we had our share of problems, but this has devastated me.  I don’t even know what to do anymore. He says he’s done. Says he doesn’t want to lose me, but last...

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Step 1- Acceptance

Step 1- Acceptance

STEP 1 - ACCEPTANCE   If you’re not willing to open up and look at the truth – the reality that you’ve been living in. The good, the bad, and the ugly – then you’re not going to get very far in recovering from codependency. You might talk a good talk and know the...

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Codependency Recovery – Start Here

Codependency Recovery – Start Here

I’m Coda What? “Are you kidding me? I’m not codependent and I don’t need a support group!”That was me ten years ago, when I was an emotional basket case and clueless about just how deep I was in a codependent mud puddle.A codependency recovery support group? Really? I...

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Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?

Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?

Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others? We've explored the nature of codependency and how it can slowly ruin a relationship. You get into a relationship and things seem so amazing when the “love high” is going on. However, at some point the relationship takes...

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Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar

Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar

Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar Everyone experiences pain in life at various time.  We all get hurt. We all go through some pretty rough times. In fact, some of you may be struggling with something painful right now. Do you have any scars on your body?  A wound that...

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Don’t Text Your Feelings!

Don’t Text Your Feelings!

Don’t Text Your Feelings: Ask For What You Need   I express myself better in writing, especially when it comes to communicating how I feel. This might be alright for a blog or casual conversation, but when it comes to trying to communicate serious feelings to my...

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For The Days You Want To Give Up

For The Days You Want To Give Up

For The Days You Want To Give Up “You never give up, even when you should.” ― Kelly Creagh Whether you’re in active addiction, recovery from drinking or drugging, or codependency recovery, I assure you that there will be days when you want to give up. Give up hope,...

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6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge

6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge

6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge   I am faced with a the opportunity to overcome a challenge. Without going into details, even though they are pretty juicy, I’m experiencing more difficulties than I’d like in life right now. Yuck, right? We all know...

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Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care

Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care

Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care   We are living in a time of uncertainty right now in America. I’d be telling a big fat lie if it didn’t concern me at times. Still, even in times where we don’t really have much of a clue as to what is going to unfold, we’re...

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3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance

3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance

3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance   I’m quite proactive when it comes to goal setting. I believe writing down goals and creating action plans (and actually following through) to get there are important. I’m not perfect at this, but I’ve become pretty good at it. This...

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Need A Self-Esteem Boost?

Need A Self-Esteem Boost?

Need A Self-Esteem Boost? Self-esteem is a crucial element of the human psyche. It's the driving force that stands behind our motivation and willingness to invest in various areas of our life. Without this invaluable element, our lives would probably be reduced to a...

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Life Is Not Black And White

Life Is Not Black And White

Life Is Not Black And White A common codependency trait is black and white thinking. What I mean by that is thinking in terms of extremes. It’s looking at things in an “all or nothing”, good or bad, right or wrong perspective. There’s no gray area. It’s using words...

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Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs

Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs

Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs No doubt we all want a better life. A life filled with more peace. More joy. More money that frees us up time-wise. Better relationships. Wonderful intentions, right?However, peace and joy may be lacking when we...

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Give Form to Love {And, Merry Christmas!}

Give Form to Love {And, Merry Christmas!}

Give form to Love Give form to Love. This is what’s on my mind as we celebrate the holidays with family and friends. Love, be it in the form of the Master Teacher Jesus, Buddha, or a host of other enlightened beings, IS the reason for the season. The kind of love that...

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Is Your Life Too Busy?

Is Your Life Too Busy?

Is Your Life Too Busy? Simplicity matters.  The ability to recognize whether you’re choosing to live simple or in a frenzied manner will certainly make a difference in how your life unfolds. I understand we live in a culture that is on “fast-forward”. Many children...

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What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)?

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)?

What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)? The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a technique designed to help bring emotional freedom for those that suffer with negative emotions and health issues. Essentially, it is the use of psychological acupressure to...

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When You’re Swimming in Pain

When You’re Swimming in Pain

When You’re Swimming in Pain   “Just leave me alone. I’m not in a good place.” Ever hear that? Say that? Oh, where to begin when you feel yourself drowning in pain and misery? Where do you turn when your world is literally being turned upside down before your...

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The Myth of Normal & Why I’m Not

The Myth of Normal & Why I’m Not

The Myth of Normal & Why I'm Not     I recently watched a talk by Dr. Gabor Mate, physician and addictions expert, about what he calls, “The myth of normal”, a concept that divides people into normal and abnormal based on pathological traits. What I...

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How Can We Show Up For The Hurting?

How Can We Show Up For The Hurting?

How Can We Show Up For The Hurting? In the light of all the natural disasters and violence seen in recent months, I'm sure there's a lot of heavy hearts all around the world. The devastation of thousands upon thousands of people feeling deep loss, fear, trauma, and...

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How Can I Get Unstuck?

How Can I Get Unstuck?

The question came in today how can I make changes in my life when I feel so overwhelmed? How can I get unstuck? When I feel so down? When I don't have a clue where to begin? I mean, I want to make the changes, yet week after week I find myself in the same place. What...

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Feminine Power: Let it Flow

Feminine Power: Let it Flow

Feminine Power: Let it Flow She lights her flame from within her bosom Resplendent strength radiates Her eyes soften any room Her aura commands attention She breeds authenticity and love Feminine energy fuels her tender heart Centered Confident She keeps me warm Read...

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Intro to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

Intro to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

There are many people out there who diagnose themselves with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but not all of them actually have the disorder. Today, I want to introduce you to the disorder so you can decide whether you should seek a therapist to explore the topic...

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Stop Stuffing Your Feelings

Stop Stuffing Your Feelings

 Stop Stuffing Your Feelings If you’re prone to stuffing your feelings when you are in pain, I hope this article will help you out. Because when you stuff your emotions, you wind up not being able to be the person, partner, or parent that you could be. When you can...

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Saying No Is An Art. Here’s How To Do It Gracefully

Saying No Is An Art. Here’s How To Do It Gracefully

Saying No Is An Art: Here's How to do it Gracefully It was the kind of text that made my shoulders slump. A friend of a friend had asked me to write a short e-book for her business. "It's super short," she explained, obviously hoping I'd be able to squeeze it in...

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We’re Strong Enough To Let Go

We’re Strong Enough To Let Go

You're Strong Enough To Let Go, Woman! It feels so good to FEEL one hundred percent responsible for my level of happiness. I mean, on the days I actually feel like this. To be the power that defines my emotions. To be the power to create the kind of life I desire....

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Stand Up For Yourself, Warrior Goddess

Stand Up For Yourself, Warrior Goddess

Can you stand up for yourself and still be spiritual? Chances are you’ve got people in your life who rub you the wrong way. Maybe they get angry and lash out at you. Or perhaps they manipulate/project their crap/nag the hell out of you. There’s probably many scenarios...

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Addiction, Community, & the Rat Park Experiment

Addiction, Community, & the Rat Park Experiment

Addiction, Community, & The Rat Park Experiment There is an addiction epidemic going on folks. From high functioning alcoholics to the affluent CEO snorting cocaine to the homeless on heroin, it's a big problem with limited solutions. And that's sad. I work in the...

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Blind on the Trail

Blind on the Trail

Most of us began the New Year with a bang. With written down goals, dream board, drenched with ambition. I began the New Year empty. Maybe even numb. Why? Honestly, I don’t know. All the books I’ve read, motivational mojo I’ve listened to, and people I’ve talked to...

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Ditch the Mask Already, Will Ya?

Ditch the Mask Already, Will Ya?

Ditch the Mask Already, Will Ya? My fingers slowly trace the outline of my face in the reflection of the tarnished mirror. I notice each delicate curve, feature and the way my eyes look hollow. Deadness. I tighten my brows and look deeper, thinking just maybe I’d see...

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Stand Up. Own Your Voice

Stand Up. Own Your Voice

Stand Up: Own Your Voice   I just finished up an 8 week Signature Story Boot Camp course led by fabulous author Rachel Resnick and I must say, I’m a bit sad that it’s all over.  At the same time, I am eager to move onto the next step in my business + personal...

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For the Netflix Binge Watching Crappy Kind of Days

For the Netflix Binge Watching Crappy Kind of Days

For the Netflix Binge Watching Crappy Kind of Days I had a rough day yesterday. Felt horrible emotionally and just didn’t have it in me to pull myself out. Nope. No listening to motivation mojo. No getting out into nature to restore. No inner pep talk. Told my partner...

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50 Shades of Vulnerable

50 Shades of Vulnerable

Nerves on edge, frightened at the thought of shedding comfortable layers, I courageously jumped into a new reality where nakedness is seen as beautiful. Authenticity viewed as courageous. Truth…noble.Yes, my spiritual journey tends to lead me out of my...

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Write the Gut Wrenching Pain Away

Write the Gut Wrenching Pain Away

It hunts me down like the corpse eating zombie Beautiful wildflowers wither a somber death Black sketches itself across the canvas of my heart Shadows strip me of strength and sanity A crown of invisible sadness covers my frame I sit and stare at a lifeless landscape...

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Being Sober Doesn’t Always Fix Relationships

Being Sober Doesn’t Always Fix Relationships

Being Sober Doesn't Always Fix Relationships   We can all relate to the far too often roller coaster ride when it comes to relationships. Live long enough and you’ll experience some sort of pain and confusion stemming from a friendship or intimate relationship....

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11 Things Introverts Want You to Know

I didn’t really discover I was an introvert until I hit my 40s. I know. Late bloomer. I guess I just considered myself shy and perhaps lacking a huge desire to “socialize.” Today, I am proud to announce that I am a hardcore introvert and I’m betting...

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Let Love Expose You

Let Love Expose You

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”...

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9 Self-Care Tips for The Highly Sensitive Person

9 Self-Care Tips for The Highly Sensitive Person

9 Self-Care Tips for The Highly Sensitive Person   “You’re too sensitive!” She said, slamming the door as she left. Well, you’re an IN-sensitive a**hole, I thought to myself, not having the nerve to actually say it out loud. Welcome to the world of being highly...

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Life Is Not a Test

Life Is Not a Test

Life Is Not a Test I used to like taking tests in school because I thrived on getting good grades. The actual act of studying and having that invested time pay off made me feel super good. Accomplished. Like I was someone important.  I’m figuring out the life is a...

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Are We Over-Medicating Women For Depression?

Are We Over-Medicating Women For Depression?

Are We Over-Medicating Women For Depression? I can get emotional. It’s true. Not just me, either. Many women get emotional and sometimes we’re just plain moody.  Chalk it up to hormone fluctuations, unexpected situations, or the fact that many of us feel this unending...

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Torch What Doesn’t Serve You

Torch What Doesn’t Serve You

 Torch What Doesn't Serve You “She was a genius of sadness, immersing herself in it, separating its numerous strands, appreciating its subtle nuances. She was a prism through which sadness could be divided into its infinite spectrum.” ― Jonathan Safran Foer I come...

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Sadness. The Bastard.

Sadness. The Bastard.

Sadness. The Bastard. Who hasn’t battled sadness at times? Sinking deeper by the minute, sometimes with no reason, we stare down the decision whether to fight or flop on the couch. Obviously exhausted. Sadness swallowed me whole for a good part of my life. Bastard. I...

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For Those Silently Screaming, Alone

For Those Silently Screaming, Alone You may be surprised to know just how many people go through life haunted by silent screams of loneliness, emptiness, and apathy. Nah, they won’t tell you and you won’t be able to tell because they are so good at wearing masks,...

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You’re Not Too Old to Follow Your Dreams

You’re Not Too Old to Follow Your Dreams

You're Never Too Old To Follow Your Dreams   One of my biggest passions growing up was playing sports- basketball in particular. I remember in grade school gym class we had to shoot free throws and my gym teacher commented on how good I was at that. I suppose...

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Can You Love Your Wounded Inner Child?

Can You Love Your Wounded Inner Child?

Can You Love Your Wounded Inner Child? I didn't realize I had a wounded inner child till I was nearing 40 years old. In fact, I thought my childhood had been pretty normal, but once I started revisiting my past, I realized that I started stuffing my emotions at an...

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