Want A Better Relationship? Learn Your Attachment Style
We want secure, fulfilling relationships, right? But many certainly don’t turn out the way we want, and we end up heartbroken, ashamed, frustrated, angry, and lonely. On a brighter note, what if we can come to understand ourselves and our partner better by looking at...
Ego: What Is It & Why Should I Care?
“Kill the ego! It’s a monster!” I’ve heard this a lot over the years, but is the ego a monster that needs killed? What exactly is the ego? Why should we care? Let’s dive into the world of ego a bit today, because when you come to understand the structure of the ego,...
Rewiring The Anxious Brain In A World That Seems Unsafe
No doubt many people have been feeling unsafe in a world of uncertainty the past year. With the invisible threat of COVID-19 swirling the planet, it’s safe to say even those who typically feel secure have been on edge. This brings me to the topic of anxiety, which is...
How To Enjoy A Deeper Emotional Connection With Your Partner
Feeling connected emotionally with your partner or spouse is a big deal for many people. While some may cringe at the thought, others really crave that deep and meaningful emotional connection. For your relationship to really flourish, connecting at that deeper, more...
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style: What Is It? Do You Have It?
If you want to understand yourself and your relationships better, learning about attachment styles should be on your “to do” list. The reason is that the way you “attached” to your primary caregivers as a baby/child have a direct influence on your adult relationships....
Not Feeling Seen Or Heard? Here’s What You Can Do
Relationships are important. From the moment we're born, forming secure connections with others is of primary importance based on survival, but also based on preference. From infants to children to adults, we all desire to feel seen and heard. By seen and heard, I...
Anxious – Preoccupied Attachment Style: What Is It & Do You Have It?
An estimated 20 percent of the population freaks out at the thought or reality of being alone. They overly rely on people seeking to soothe underlying anxiety that started zapping their nervous system as a child. That over-reliance often causes them to come off as...
11 Things Your Inner Child Wants To Hear From You
Dan is stuck in life. He gets up every morning and puts a smile on for his work peers, but inside, he’s depressed and angry. He’s 28 and thought by now, his life would be a lot different. He thought he’d be married with children, have a nice house in the suburbs, and...
Reparenting Your Inner Child: What Does It Mean? How Do We Do It?
My grandson is almost two. I’ve watched him grow in wonder and curiosity over the past two years and it’s been wonderful. I watch him look at the world. As I watch, I wonder what he’s downloading into his subconscious. His mind. I wonder what assumptions he’s making....
Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others?
Attachment Styles: How Do You Attach To Others? We've explored the nature of codependency and how it can slowly ruin a relationship. You get into a relationship and things seem so amazing when the “love high” is going on. However, at some point the relationship takes...
I’m Sad. Ok, Ok, I’m Depressed. What Can I Do?
I’m Sad. Ok, Ok I’m Depressed. What Can I Do? Come mighty breakdown, break me wide open. Carve your name in the caverns of my hollow heart. Rip off the blinders & cut the shadow’s cord. I can’t take one more day of this pitch black. This sandpaper love has...
Moving Beyond Codependency: 8 Key Recovery Principles
Codependency Recovery: 8 Key Concepts In working with people who struggle with codependency characteristics, and navigating my emotional healing journey, I have compiled 8 Key Concepts working toward healing from codependency characteristics that form my understanding...
What is Soul Loss and How Can it Help with Understanding Emotional Wounds?
What is Soul Loss and How Can it Help with Understanding Emotional Wounds? If you visit an indigenous culture that has a Shaman (medicine person), they’ll tell you they believe that emotional, mental, and physical illness could very well be due to a gradual...
5 Exercises To Help You Honor & Heal Your Inner Child
While it’s every child's right to feel safe and secure, no one has the luxury of a perfect childhood. Parents have the responsibility to create a physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually safe space for their kids. While I do think most parents do a...
What Will We Say to Our Grandchildren 10, 20 Years Down The Road?
What Will We Say to Our Grandchildren 10, 20 Years Down The Road?One day, when my grandchildren are older, they may ask me a serious question that I pray I’ll be able to answer with my head held high:“Gramma, in the midst of the 2020 pandemic, and the state of...
Imagine A World Marked With Peace & Love
Imagine A World Marked With Peace & Love At the onset of the Industrial Revolution around 1700, there were about 670 million people around the world. This was before we started using fossil fuels like crazy, extracting more and more resources from our precious...
The World Is Changing: How Does Spirituality Fit In?
The World Is Changing: How Does Spirituality Fit In? It’s an interesting and uncertain time in history. What we are experiencing globally with a pandemic is certainly requiring all of us to think about the future. Our future individually and collectively.It’s easy...
Can We Save The Planet? End Famine? Poverty? The Threat of Extinction? Here’s What YOU Can Do
Can We Save The Planet? End Famine? Poverty? The Threat of Extinction? Here’s What YOU Can DoAs many of you, I spent some years working a job I didn’t really care for. It was alright and paid the bills, but I just wasn’t passionate about it. But the more I woke up to...
Maybe This Is Our Chance To Reshape Ourselves & Build A Better World
Maybe This Is Our Chance To Reshape Ourselves & Build A Better World After spending some time self-distancing and in quarantine, many of us are now getting a deeper revelation that this is indeed a pivotal...
In Chaos, There Is Fertility
In Chaos, There Is Fertility “In chaos, there is fertility.” ~ Anaïs NinI love this wisdom by Anais Nin. In a time of obvious chaos around the world, perhaps it can spark some hope in those needing it.No doubt globally we’re at a turning point in history, with many...
Aha Moments & Why I’m Writing Again
Aha Moments & Why I’m Writing Again2020 has been intense in various ways for me. Actually, I think we can all agree globally, there’s a lot of chaos going on. There’s no doubt at this time in our conscious evolution as a collective that we’re experiencing many...
There Is A New, Higher Consciousness on the Earth.
There Is A New, Higher Consciousness on the Earth In a relatively short time, I’ve gone from isolating in my bedroom under the guise that I’m an introvert to wanting to stand on rooftops and shout, “You are not who you think you are. We are not who we think we are!...
Those In Pain Need More Love; Not Less
Those In Pain Need More Love, Not Less I think it was Matt Kahn who said that. “Those in pain need more love; not less.” It hit me like a ton of bricks at the time. I thought, “What about those that are being horrible? The haters? Those that harm others?” I heard,...
Is Divine or Supernatural Healing For Today?
Is divine or supernatural healing for today? Are we to just accept that we’re going to come down with illnesses, aches, and/or diseases? Or, can we actively be doing something to prevent and/or heal such? Are we powerless or powerful? Do our thoughts or beliefs make...
Addiction & Neuroplasticity: What’s The Deal?
Addiction & Neuroplasticity: What's The Deal? With millions struggling with addiction globally, something’s got to break treatment wise. Sure, some progress is being made, but not nearly enough. There’s a lot of theories as to what needs to happen, and...
What is Consciousness Engineering and What Can It Do For You?
What is Consciousness Engineering and What Can It Do For You?For those who want to become more conscious, learning about conscious engineering may just help you out. As you can guess, conscious engineering is about creating the kind of consciousness that you desire....
Faith Is Passive And Active – Resist Being Lazy
Faith Is Passive And Active – Resist Being LazyAsk, believe, and receive. We hear this a lot in faith or spiritual circles, and it sounds great, right? Ask for something, conjure up the feelings that you indeed have it already, and bam. You’ll get it. But it doesn’t...
Are We Already Healed? What’s The Truth?
In the few healing modalities I’ve been studying lately, I’m seeing more and more that healing is basically acknowledging or returning to TRUTH. Surely, we all think at times and wonder, “What is real? What is truth? What is Truth?”I know I have, and it always spurs...
What Does It Mean To Be “Whole”?
“I feel broken. Like someone took a sledgehammer and delivered blow after blow, shattering me into a thousand pieces.” Maybe you haven’t felt that broken, but chances are you’ve dealt with some feelings of brokenness in your life. Regardless of what healing path...
Hello. How Is Your Spirit Doing?
Are You Growing Spiritually? My hope is that if you’re reading this, you’re already on the spiritual awakening path. (If you’re not, hop on.) You’re waking up. Shaking up all that is not spiritual and embracing more of what is. You’re becoming more concerned...
The Spirituality of Powerlessness
I’ve worked in the addiction field plenty over the years and am quite familiar with the 12 Step addiction recovery groups like Alcoholics or Narcotics Anonymous.I’ve worked my own 12 Step program too – Codependents Anonymous and Adult Children of Alcoholics.I can say...
5 Must Read Books For Loved Ones Of Addicts/Alcoholics
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Darling, You’re Not Broken
Darling, You're Not Broken But my heart is broken. How the heck do you expect me to get up and smile every day?We hear this a lot. We see it a lot. Just scroll through Facebook or check Instagram quotes and you’ll see heartache splattered all over the place.Maybe your...
I Love My Aging Body – Really, I Do
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How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs
How To Tell If My Husband (Or Wife) Is Using Drugs Not knowing if your spouse is using drugs or not can cause so much anxiety. Maybe they’ve got a history of drug use or maybe you’re seeing some sketchy behaviors. Have you caught him in a lie? Is he slurring his...
The Call For Peaceful Change
The Call For Peaceful Change Violence stems from the illusion of feeling separate from God. Separate from others. And, separate from oneself. Peace comes when there is a union with God, which results in an abundance of love too. This is to be our aim – a strong,...
Menopause Sure Is Something!
Ah, Come On, Menopausal God. Give Me Something Here Remember the days of PMS? When you felt as if you were crawling out of your skin? Progesterone and estrogen levels erratically surging, making you feel as if you either want to either hide away in your room and sob...
Powerful Prayers For Adult Children
Powerful Prayers For Adult ChildrenWhether your children are 18, 30, or older, consistent prayers offered on their behalf not only helps them, but helps you to have a more peaceful and faith filled heart. I know for me, if I’m not looking toward a loving God...
This God Kind of Love: Wow!
The dark period of my life was necessary. The pain, suffering, confusion, and wandering all served a larger purpose - the death of me. The death of my ego. The death of fleshly driven hopes and dreams.“Listen carefully: Unless a grain of wheat is buried in the ground,...
Proclaiming Freedom From Codependency For All
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Help! My Adult Son (Daughter) is Addicted to Drugs!
Help! My Adult Son (or Daughter) is Addicted to Drugs!As a parent whose adult son is addicted to drugs, chances are you’re feeling a lot of mixed emotions over the matter. Of course, you love your son and want the best for him, but he may not be seeing things the same...
We Are Enough: Do You Believe That?
What Are We Here For? Codependency is a popular term, but it's outdated. It's oftentimes misunderstood. And, some people go throughout life thinking they have this "condition" that will always be a thorn in their side. I'm a firm believer that we are not...
Unlock The Power of Meditation
Unlock the Power of Meditation “All I know is that when I can sit in nature, listening to the birds and feeling the wind on my skin, life feels right. I feel right.” The mind sure can busy itself with thoughts, huh? Thought after thoughts turning on the wheel,...
Madly In Love Or Just Mad?
Madly In Love or Just Mad? “We used to be madly in love, but now we’re just mad all the time. Crazy, right?” Falling in love is beautiful, isn't it? I can say for myself the process of falling in love makes me feel like I can do anything! There are reasons why...
Thought Awareness And Reframing Exercise
Thought Awareness and Reframing Part of emotional healing requires us to revisit past memories, perhaps even feeling some of the negative feelings associated with such. Today, let me show you a quick technique that has helped me get in the habit of becoming more of an...
Codependency Recovery Is Important
Codependency Recovery is Important I commend you on your patience and persistence to continue to explore your issues and get familiar with the main triggers of your codependent tendencies. And, progressing in your codependency recovery, begin to implement a set of...
Learn To Set & Keep Boundaries: Part 2
What You Want and Need Matters, So Set Those Boundaries! The reason why some people end up struggling with relating in a codependent way is that they don’t understand the importance or don’t know how to set and keep boundaries. Sadly, they usually come to realize this...
Setting And Keeping Boundaries: Part 1
Setting and Keeping Boundaries “My husband has been using pills for almost a decade. We have two kids together and I’m tired of being the one in charge of everything. I’d been putting up with it alright until last month when I got a call from the cops in the middle...
Self-Care: Ask For What You Need
Self-Care: Ask For What You Need Life can get incredibly busy with work, kids, errands, chores, appointments, etc. Time is a precious commodity. Surely, you enjoy spending time with your loved ones, but sometimes the hustle and bustle of life makes it difficult to...
Please Don’t Leave Me! The Fear Of Abandonment
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Inner Child Healing Exercise
Childhood Photograph Dialogue Exercise Yes, that’s me at five years old. That little girl is who went through some scary things and didn’t understand why. That’s the little girl who figured she better be a “good girl”, because maybe if she was “good”, Mom and Dad...
Let Go Of Your “Not-So-Good-Enough” Self
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Codependency: A Sacred View
Codependency: A Sacred View “Codependency? WTH? I feel so alone. No one understands and I question whether anyone really cares. I know I don’t deserve this, but here I am struggling in this relationship. Is there a reason for this? Is there some big lesson I’m...
Draw Up A Blueprint
Draw Up Your Blueprint Without a blueprint, contractors would be up a creek, huh? Having to build a home without specifications could really cause some headaches and an unsafe dwelling In the same way, we need a blueprint when it comes to overcoming codependent...
Codependent Meaning – Is Codependency Ruling My Relationships?
Codependent Meaning: What is It? Is Codependency Ruling My Relationships? Codependent meaning - The pattern of seeking external things, including people, for a feeling of self-worth. Before we can implement various strategies to eliminate the dysfunctional...
Codependency Recovery: Start Building A Foundation
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Breathe. You Are Not Alone
Breathe: You’re Not Alone “I just found out my partner relapsed. We’ve been together four years and sure, we had our share of problems, but this has devastated me. I don’t even know what to do anymore. He says he’s done. Says he doesn’t want to lose me, but last...
Step 1- Acceptance
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Codependency Recovery – Start Here
I’m Coda What? “Are you kidding me? I’m not codependent and I don’t need a support group!”That was me ten years ago, when I was an emotional basket case and clueless about just how deep I was in a codependent mud puddle.A codependency recovery support group? Really? I...
4 Codependency Recovery Stages
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Set Boundaries With Loved Ones
It’s Alright to Set Boundaries With Loved Ones I'm no stranger to online recovery forums. I find many people write in wondering how to set boundaries with their loved ones. Whether their loved one is an addict, alcoholic, selfish, unavailable emotionally, etc.,...
Oh, The Mystery of Divine Being! Holiday Greetings!
Oh, The Mystery of Divine Being! “But the basic reality of God is plain enough. Open your eyes and there it is! By taking a long and thoughtful look at what God has created, people have always been able to see what their eyes as such can’t see: eternal power, for...
Can A Codependent Be A Narcissist?
Can You Be Codependent and a Narcissist? Some people have asked me if it’s possible that they could be codependent and a narcissist. Now, from a psychological standpoint, the answer is no, mainly because each disorder is at the opposite end of the spectrum. What can...
Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar
Embrace The Beauty Of A Scar Everyone experiences pain in life at various time. We all get hurt. We all go through some pretty rough times. In fact, some of you may be struggling with something painful right now. Do you have any scars on your body? A wound that...
Prayers & Affirmations for Someone Struggling With Addiction
Prayers & Affirmations for an Addict or Alcoholic It's challenging when a loved one is struggling with the disease of addiction. You find out in a quick minute that essentially you're powerless to change or fix them. You can, however, learn how to best support...
Affirmative Healing Prayers
I've created 31 affirmative prayers for healing. Go ahead and meditate on them and pray them daily!Click on the link below, and the next page you'll have to click to get the PDF version.AFFIRMATIVE HEALING PRAYERS Facebook Instagram Pinterest
5 Comments That Will Help You Diffuse A Narcissist
5 Comments To Diffuse A Narcissist If you’re dealing with a narcissist, chances are you’re left feeling defeated more times than you’d like. You’re walking on eggshells, feeling inadequate, and likely exhausted from making darn sure their ego is having a good trip....
Toxic Person? Relationship? Detach, Dear One
Detach From The Narcissist/Addict/Emotional Abuser In A Loving Way Codependents sure know how to attach. In fact, some attach like a famished blood-sucking leech. It’s easier than you think to become obsessed with another person, such as your children or your...
You Are a Spirit: 25 Ways to Feel More Spiritual
You Are a Spirit: 25 Ways to Feel More Spiritual I understand quite well that we all want to find meaning and purpose in life. For me, when I'm feeling empty and well, sort of useless, it's not a good feeling. There are certainly many paths to spiritual growth...
5 Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate
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Life With Someone Who Is Addicted: Lessons Learned
Life With An Addict: Lessons Learned {Guest Post by Kristi C.} No doubt if you’re living with a loved one who’s struggling with alcoholism or drug addiction, you’re weighed down with worry and stress, feeling lost. You feel you’re going crazy and that your...
Getting Older? Your Confidence May Be Connected To Colors In Your Wardrobe
Dear Maturing Woman: Your Confidence May Be Linked To Colors In Your Wardrobe I think I’ve always gone for the grays and blacks on the clothing racks, mainly because these colors helped me blend in with the crowd. To wear a bright color kind of freaked me out,...
Don’t Text Your Feelings!
Don’t Text Your Feelings: Ask For What You Need I express myself better in writing, especially when it comes to communicating how I feel. This might be alright for a blog or casual conversation, but when it comes to trying to communicate serious feelings to my...
The Codependency Dance Is No Fun
The Codependency Dance If you’re like me, you sometimes dance in your home all by yourself when one of your favorite dance songs comes on. Ah, come on, you know you do, and rightly so: Dancing is fun. Well, except the Codependency Dance. That kind of dance stinks....
For The Days You Want To Give Up
For The Days You Want To Give Up “You never give up, even when you should.” ― Kelly Creagh Whether you’re in active addiction, recovery from drinking or drugging, or codependency recovery, I assure you that there will be days when you want to give up. Give up hope,...
Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent?
Codependency Symptoms: Am I Codependent? Codependency symptoms differ from one person to another. In fact, every problem that we might encounter, be it depression, anxiety, phobia or codependency, has its particularities.Two people struggling with codependency...
How Do You Pray? The Art of Prayer
How Do You Pray? The Art Of Prayer When we’re struggling with something, many people will say, “I’ll pray for you” and that’s wonderful. I think prayer is helpful. In fact, my decade or so involved in a praying church with prayer warriors as mentors taught me a...
Shadow Work Guide: Digging Deep Into The Psyche For A Happier, More Joyful Life
Shadow Work Guide: Digging Deep Into The Psyche For A Happier, More Joyful Life Dominica Applegate I used to not be able to look at people in the eyes because I thought they could see right through the mask I was wearing to see all my dark, shadowy monsters. The...
6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge
6 Tips to Consciously Overcome a Challenge I am faced with a the opportunity to overcome a challenge. Without going into details, even though they are pretty juicy, I’m experiencing more difficulties than I’d like in life right now. Yuck, right? We all know...
Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care
Uncertain Times Call For Self-Care We are living in a time of uncertainty right now in America. I’d be telling a big fat lie if it didn’t concern me at times. Still, even in times where we don’t really have much of a clue as to what is going to unfold, we’re...
3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance
3 Mindsets That Sabotage Abundance I’m quite proactive when it comes to goal setting. I believe writing down goals and creating action plans (and actually following through) to get there are important. I’m not perfect at this, but I’ve become pretty good at it. This...
Need A Self-Esteem Boost?
Need A Self-Esteem Boost? Self-esteem is a crucial element of the human psyche. It's the driving force that stands behind our motivation and willingness to invest in various areas of our life. Without this invaluable element, our lives would probably be reduced to a...
Life Is Not Black And White
Life Is Not Black And White A common codependency trait is black and white thinking. What I mean by that is thinking in terms of extremes. It’s looking at things in an “all or nothing”, good or bad, right or wrong perspective. There’s no gray area. It’s using words...
Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs
Try Proprioceptive Writing to Heal Limiting Beliefs No doubt we all want a better life. A life filled with more peace. More joy. More money that frees us up time-wise. Better relationships. Wonderful intentions, right?However, peace and joy may be lacking when we...
You Are Not Codependency
You Are Not Codependency I am not codependent, and neither are you. It’s time we drop the label, because the reality is that if you keep identifying with codependency so closely, you’re likely to keep creating the same reality. The codependency movement has...
I Know I’m Codependent. Now What?
I Know I'm Codependent. Now What There's a lot of information about codependency out there. You could read two articles and determined that yes, you're certainly struggling with codependent characteristics. In fact, you could read book after book and article...
Why Do I Feel So Insecure in Relationship?
Why Am I So Insecure In My Relationships? Today’s topic is Attachment Theory and Codependency. If you’re struggling with codependency characteristics, it will serve you well to learn about the various attachment styles there are and how your attachment bond that you...
When Your Partner Is An Alcoholic/Addict
When Your Partner Is An Alcoholic/Addict {Here's an article I wrote for a recovery forum geared toward those struggling with a loved one who is an alcoholic or addict. Hope this helps you better navigate this tricky road...} If you are in a relationship with an addict...
Escaping Codependency In The Sacred
Escaping Codependency In The Sacred For me codependency was a god-send. Don’t get me wrong. It was very challenging to go through the toxic relationship that first pointed out to me that I certainly struggled with codependent characteristics. At the same time, had I...
No More Crumbs
I Will Not Settle For Crumbs Anymore! Hey recovering codependents! Here’s a new mantra for ya! Say it with me: “I will not settle for crumbs anymore!” Feels good, huh? Now, I’m talking relationships here, friends. I mean we will not settle for others tossing us a...
Give Form to Love {And, Merry Christmas!}
Give form to Love Give form to Love. This is what’s on my mind as we celebrate the holidays with family and friends. Love, be it in the form of the Master Teacher Jesus, Buddha, or a host of other enlightened beings, IS the reason for the season. The kind of love that...
What is Energy Healing?
The Basics of Energy Healing There’s a lot of information out there on energy healing, and some of it may be confusing. Here, I’ve sourced trusted information and used my own experiences to help you understand how energy healing works. It’s a short guide designed to...
Is Your Life Too Busy?
Is Your Life Too Busy? Simplicity matters. The ability to recognize whether you’re choosing to live simple or in a frenzied manner will certainly make a difference in how your life unfolds. I understand we live in a culture that is on “fast-forward”. Many children...
What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)?
What is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)? The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a technique designed to help bring emotional freedom for those that suffer with negative emotions and health issues. Essentially, it is the use of psychological acupressure to...
Respect the Mystery
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When You’re Swimming in Pain
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Are You Dating A Narcissist?
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The Myth of Normal & Why I’m Not
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Hello, Star Shine {Poetry}
hello star shine spring breaks forth, celebrating green in splendor, warmth oozes down her shivering, vulnerable heart. grace brushes her face, leans in close with a whisper. flower child, you must trust the arriving of a vision after hibernation, for time...
How Can We Show Up For The Hurting?
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How Can I Get Unstuck?
The question came in today how can I make changes in my life when I feel so overwhelmed? How can I get unstuck? When I feel so down? When I don't have a clue where to begin? I mean, I want to make the changes, yet week after week I find myself in the same place. What...
When Your Communication Skills Suck
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Feminine Power: Let it Flow
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Intro to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
There are many people out there who diagnose themselves with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but not all of them actually have the disorder. Today, I want to introduce you to the disorder so you can decide whether you should seek a therapist to explore the topic...
Stop Stuffing Your Feelings
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Soul Recovery: My Journey Back to Faith
Soul Recovery: My Journey Back to Faith The dark period of my life was necessary. The pain, suffering, confusion, and wandering all served a larger purpose - the death of me. The death of my ego. The death of fleshly driven hopes and dreams. “Listen carefully: Unless...
Rend {Poetry}
rend her head gently drops not wanting to be seen somewhere in between wanting needing bleeding as she succumbs to vile crumbs sifting through egg shells scattered on her floor just a little more bet and believe she’ll even the score worthiness will trump...
Lost and Found {Poetry}
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